No Questions Asked

by Hannah, Bhavya, & Supreet

No Questions Asked

Hi T-Wolves! We are excited to offer an advice column inspired by the Dork Diaries series “Miss-Know-It-All.”

Feel free to submit an online form by scanning the QR code:

https://forms.gle/dQr7QtG6AGYzQwV17

The steps are easy:

1. Come up with an anonymous nickname for your submission.

2. Write about what you would like advice on and turn it in.

3. We will post a response on our Instagram (@jhs.newspaper) as Henry!

Here is an example of a past submission:

Dear Henry,

I’m getting my vaccine and my friend already has hers. We both really want to do something fun together (while still being safe with covid and mindful of others) but we don’t know what to do. send help :(

Sincerely,

Pro-Vaxxer

Dear Pro-Vaxxer,

Congrats on getting your vaccine! That’s super exciting! It’s really important to remember to keep others in mind like you said when hanging out with friends, even if you’re all vaccinated. I suggest going on a walk together, or maybe a bike ride. Maybe go watch the sunset or sunrise, or take a fun and relaxing picnic and visit your local park. If you’re artistic you can paint or draw each other, or use the online Picrew website to see how you see yourself vs how your friend sees you (shout out to TikTok for introducing me to that). You don’t always need to spend money to have fun, sometimes the best times happen when you just enjoy each other’s company. If you decide to do something outside with the possibility of being around others, remember to wear your masks! Even if you’ve both got the second dose of the vaccine, you should still be mindful of others who haven’t had the opportunity yet.

*Even if you aren’t looking to hang out with a friend, taking a walk or just getting outside can really help any negative thoughts or feelings you’ve been dealing with.

Sending love to you Timberwolf!

HENRY

Dear Henry,

I broke up with my boyfriend a few months ago because I got the ick, but now I kind of miss him… what should I do?

That’s actually a really difficult situation because I know you probably miss the feeling of him being around. I always ask myself when I’m in a relationship, do I like the person or the idea of them? What caused you to get the ick? If there were signs of red flags there was a reason why you had to break things off, but at the same time, I understand that we can’t control our feelings and sometimes our hearts feel like it’s right. My question is how was the relationship when you were with him?

Dear Henry,

Last school year was pretty rough for me. I don’t have a good friendship with anybody, I struggle keeping up with my classes by always procrastinating, and I just feel unhappy. What can I do so I don’t feel this way next year?

Wanting change

Dear Wanting change,

It is so great to see that you are willing to make changes for yourself! Since you have the entire summer, make sure you don’t rush and remember that good habits develop over time. In terms of friendship, if there is someone who you want to grow closer with, remember that putting an effort is important. It might be out of your comfort zone but offer to hang out sometime and try your best to stay in contact. Don’t be too discouraged if a friendship doesn’t work out, you never know who might come along in the future. In terms of academics, I don’t think I have met a student who has never procrastinated. Everybody certainly has struggled keeping up at one point but know that procrastinating can be changed! Start with just trying an assignment for 15 minutes, and it is likely you will find the motivation to continue. Even doing 15 minutes of, say, four classes is already an hour of work! When you get into the groove of things, try experimenting with a variety of study methods! A favorite of mine is the 25/5 method. Likewise to friendships, putting in effort is important. Always remember to stay consistent when trying for change and believe in yourself. Rooting for you!

Take care,

HENRY